THOUGHT:
"Just because they make it in your size... don't mean you should wear it"
Subtitle...
"You ain't got no friends"
Well... Now y'all KNOW I'm 'bout to act up... but hey... this is the FUN, FUN, FUN issue so I just gotta do it!!!
I'm a southern girl at heart and LOVE it when the warm weather hits. See, I'm truly one of those people affected by the seasons. In fact, escape of the snow is actually the reason I left my beloved DMV... 'Cause FOR REAL... there just ain't NO PLACE like DC Baby Yeah!!! Ok… now that I got that outta my system LOL... back to the point.
The warm weather is here and folks seem to feel some kinda free when it gets hot outside. But this is not always a good thing... There are just some things ER'BODY don't need to see!!! LOL KEEP people outta ya business... ya' feel me? Now some of this is funny, but 'er 'um... some of it is just a HOT MESS cause grown folk ought to know better than to come out the house with some of the crap I have ALREADY seen... OR let they children out the house looking like refugees. YES... I SAID IT.
Now even tho I'm being funny...let me slip some word in here… "My people perish for lack of knowledge..." Hosea 4:6 ...Even though this scripture is talking about coming into the knowledge of God and salvation, etc. Knowledge is Knowledge and there used to be a time when "Elders"/GROWN PEOPLE behaved like they had some freakin sense... and they imparted some sense into the youth. But we are now living in times when Grandparents are in their 30's and babies are having and raising babies and people have lost all sense of what is decent and respectable. Oh... I'm not talking about being "fly" or even having fun with the latest trends. UM... HELLO... I DO have flaming red hair! LOL ... but I don't have this bright red hair cause I'm SHY... so if ya mama never told ya... let me be the one to... "JUST because they make it in your size, babies, DON'T mean you should wear it!" Oh... and that applies to the "itty bitty's" as well as the "big 'uns"... OooKAY!!!
I'm talking about finding ANYTHING at all CUTE about walking around looking just plain nasty... and this applies to males as well as females. I know that times change and people would like to consider themselves more progressive, etc. But really, there is nothing new under the sun and certain things NEVER EVER change... you can be trendy, hot, sexy, fly, or the next aspiring model... and STILL HAVE SOME CLASS!!! This is ALSO about behavior... everything ain't for public knowledge! JUST because you participate in certain activities, don't mean the whole world needs to know it! KEEP YA BUSINESS OFF THE INTERNET PEOPLE!!! It's NOT cute. See... even before my mama became a pastor, she taught me AND my brother that there is even a RIGHT WAY to do WRONG!!! What does that mean? It means carry yourself with respect and keep people out cha business!!!
Example #1:
One day driving home from work... I saw these 2 "young ladies"... and I'm using the term ladies lightly cause even tho I'm sure they THOUGHT they were looking cute... a mess is what they were ACTUALLY looking! Now y'all might say "Ms. Reign... this ain't right"... but they were both old enough to know better, tall enough to see in a mirror, and grown enough to switch around with that crap on so in my book that makes it fair game!
So... the first one was in some pajama pants and fuzzy red bedroom slippers.. You know the kind an old skool mama used to wear when she came up to the school to embarrass you for cutting class. Mmm hmm y'all know what I'm talking about.
Well, the second one had on some flannel boxer shorts, and a nightclub style halter top with a dirty ass pink bra that was stretched waaaayyy outta shape and not even close to being hidden. WTH???
... AND they had the nerve to be pushing a baby stroller down the street and switching like they was the hottest "ish" on the planet.
I wanted to pull out a belt and beat them both til the white meat show, and then take them home and find out who else in “they” house let them go out in the public looking like that!!! 'Cause as my daughter and I say... "They ain't got NO friends... Don't nobody REALLY love them!!!" ‘Cause, see, IF they did... SOMEBODY woulda told 'em!
Example #2:
On another occasion... actually rather frequently... I see males of ALL ages with their pants purposely down completely around their thighs and their WHOLE ENTIRE behind, whether in boxers or briefs, just out for the world to see. .... "FOR WHY REASON???"
... and generally... these same males will have on some variation of the ridiculously long, swap meet, 3 for $10 white tshirt. Generally, it's also about as dingy as that chicks dirty bra!!! Guys, you cannot garner ANY respect OR make anyone in the free world believe that you are gainfully employed or have any level of intelligence above the 8th grade, when your pants are down around your thighs and you’re struggling to walk JUST to keep them that way!!!
Example #3
Next is the "big girl" who think she little....
Naaaawwww... I'm not talking ‘bout the "Thyck Chycks" OR my "BBW" big beautiful sisters of all races.... 'cause it ain't no secret, and I make no bones about the fact that I AM a "Thyck Chyck"... and though some may call me fat, while others say I'm not, I look in the mirror EVERY morning, access myself and do my best to be the best me that I can be. Actually, it's kinda tough being in-between cause women my size ain't exactly small, but ain't exactly big and shoppin' for things that fit can be a 'mutha!!! LOL But that's another story for another time. So back to the point...
I'm talkin about that woman we have ALL seen (and she comes in ALL races) that is just plain FAT NASTY (yeah that's what we used to call it back in the day) and she finds nothing wrong with walking around all in the public with her big fat nasty stanky (did I say stanky) tail in some toooooo tight OR toooo looose attire... generally with no bra, flappin' all over the place, some booty shorts on, and making people want to just puke!!!
Ooohhh... but "Fat Nasty" has a male variety too... yes it does... belly hanging all out... man breast flapping under yo dirty tshirt that look like it ain't seen a laundry in six months and we can smell yo funk before we even see ya big butt crack crawling outta dem pants that's fallin down cause you too triflin to put a belt on... UM HELLO.... STOP TRYNA HOLLA AT WOMEN YOU IS NASTY!!!!!!!!!!!! And if one more of you fat bastards even speaks a word to a decent woman who you KNOW you shouldn't be tryna talk to I'mma call the Po Po!!!
Last example.... #4
The 40+ year old woman with her hair in pony tails with barretts (or "bo-rretts" if ya live in da hood)!!! You need to be slapped!!! Hello, there are appropriate hair accessories for grown women. Actually, they are not hard to find. Just check the aisles of any beauty supply store, or the newest kiosk at the mall. But if you are over 13 years old (or 13 and look like yo daddy is Shaq) YOU DON'T NEED TO HAVE BARRETTS IN YOUR FREAKIN HAIR!!!! GET THEM OUT RIGHT THIS MINUTE!!!
See here is the moral of the story... no matter what your size, age, gender, or socio-economic status, there is something out there that is appropriate, will accent your positives, minimize your negatives (cause we ALL gott'em), and generate respectful compliments. Ladies... the kind of man that will holla at you, because you are stupid enough to walk around with all your private parts on display for the world to see IS NOT... I REPEAT... NOT A MAN YOU WANT or a man that will respect you. Men, the kind of lady that will allow you to holla at her when you are funky, nasty. looking busted, IS NOT... I REPEAT... NOT A WOMAN YOU WANT.... she likely got a nasty house... and maybe even "that nasty womans disease" (for my movie trivia folks)... LOL But seriously.... WHO would want YOU to even touch them when you look like they gonna have to go to the clinic and get a shot immediately just from talking to you!!!
Family, what I'm trying to say to you, is WAKE THE HECK UP.... RESPECT YO' SELF.... and heck... RESPECT ME (LOL) cause I don't want to see that foolishness and mayhem! …And please parents... STOP SETTIN' YO KIDS UP!!! Them babies ain't even old enough to protest the mess you puttin them in!!!
... and REMEMBER just because you are a size 2, don't mean you should wear everything they make in YOUR SIZE either!!! I see some "skinny" girls that look a hot freakin mess. ... and chicks with... well um... itty bittys... that sag down to their freakin knees... just because you are an "A" Cup don't mean you can walk around without a bra!!!! HOIST them thangs up and make us all smile please!!! ER'BODY don't need to be in ya business!!!
You cannot make anyone believe that you respect yo' self just because you bop ya head, snap ya fingers, OR cus a 'mo fo' out, etc... when you look "Tow' up... from the flo' up". Respect begins WITHIN.. and gettin ya' "SHINE on" ain't about the "bling" you wear, but your INNER GLOW. If you are happy, and living a positive life, IT WILL SHOW on the outside!
Allow me as always to invite you to LIVE A GOOD LIFE family... and live it ABUNDANTLY!!! Oh... and by all means... get a make ova' if ya need it PAHLEEZ!!!
Your Sister in Truth,
Phoenyx Reign
